Do you know that what each of us desires and needs is to be acknowledged, accepted, and validated for exactly who, what, and where we are in our lives at any given moment?
To emphasize this, try reading this out loud:
"I am amazing, beautiful, and wholly perfect exactly the way I am and exactly where I am right now. Everything in my life is happening for a reason and is working out perfectly. I am on my own perfect, unique path of evolution and experience. All the good and all the bad, all the wins and all the losses, all the ups and all the downs. It's all part of me and my perfect life - EXACTLY the way I am and it is."
Doesn't that feel good? Now, imagine saying this to someone else. People are starving for acknowledgement and acceptance, including ourselves. I accept and fully acknowledge you for being your amazing, beautiful self, EXACTLY as you are, and I encourage you to do the same, for yourself AND others.
In this article, we explore how it's true that our lives are perfectly unfolding, and how embracing this fact is one of the most powerful things we can do for experiencing our mojo. We will also look at one of the most common beliefs that keeps us from doing this.
Here's a great place to start: embrace exactly where you are as perfect for you at this moment of your life. You can enact a feeling of appreciation, gratitude, and even love, for who, what, and where you are in life. You do this because it is the most powerful way to relate to any moment you experience. Why is this? Because doing anything else is resisting the moment. By definition if you are not embracing or allowing, you are resisting, and this removes you from the present moment. It keeps you in a nonexistent fantasy world where the "problem" doesn't exist and therefore this perpetuates whatever it is you are resisting.
Think of the game we call "Tug-Of-War." For that game to work it requires both sides resisting the energy of the other. As soon as one side stops resisting - boom! - game over - there is no game. This is exactly what happens in your life. You stop playing the game (resisting) and the game is over. While resisting you have no choice, you have to exert a large amount of effort to try to overcome your opponent. When you stop resisting you create options. In the game of tug-of-war if you let go, your opponent will fall on their bum, and at that moment you could walk away, you could walk over and offer a helping hand up, or any number of actions. You are free from the struggle, effort-full, and time-wasting game of resistance.
There is another powerful reason to begin embracing exactly where you are as perfect for you in your life at this time: it is a very high realization, and affirmation, of the divine perfection of the Universe. When you resist where you are in your life, you are basically saying "there is something wrong with reality, it should be different than it is. I know how it should be and this is not it." Talk about passing negative judgment on reality! Again, this is resistance to reality and will only cause struggle.
Very often people believe embracing the moment, their experience, or their life exactly as it IS, means they must capitulate, give up, and not care anymore. This would then mean the likely perpetuation of the undesirable situation or experience. If this is true for you, notice you believe that resistance and negative judgment of something is necessary before you can change it. Consider it a new way: change can happen from acceptance and non-resistance. Just because you accept and embrace something, does not mean you want it and have to perpetuate it. These are two totally different things. Come to realize that you can totally accept and embrace something, AND work to change it. Come to realize the most powerful change is sourced from acceptance, not resistance.
There is never anything wrong, no matter how it may look, there is always opportunity in every challenge, and in hindsight, everything is always working out.
Hasn't everything happened in your life for a reason? Hasn't it all turned out and made you who you are at this point in time? And if it looks like it hasn't "all turned out" I can practically guarantee it will over time. So if it's true that everything is always turning out - no matter how it may look - then it's fair to say that your life is turning out right now, and is in each and every moment. In fact, it never is not turning out. So relax, trust this fact, and allow your life to just turn out!
"the supreme law of our divine nature determines perfectly our relations with each being and with the totality of the universe, it also reveals the exact rhythm of the direct expression of the Divine in us."
~ Sri Aurobindo
Get out a blank sheet of paper and write down everything you are grateful for in your life. Do this until you can't think of anything else. I bet you'll be surprised at just how much great stuff there is in your life and just how much you take that for granted every day. Notice how you feel after doing this exercise.