Monday, August 29, 2011

20 Ways to Advance your Career

To survive and thrive in today's competitive environment, it is not just what you know. You also need to be competent. You must stand out from the crowd - be memorable, impressive, credible, trusted and liked.

"Success is never a destination - it is a journey." - Maya Sullivan

20 Ways to Advance your Career

1. Exceed expectations; deliver results on a or head of time.
2. Manage your time effectively.
3. Create a career plan with goals and training requirements.
4. Move away from day-to-day operations.
5. Develop strong rapport with colleagues, senior managers/executives.
6. Get a mentor, accept guidance in your career.
7. Know your organization's goals vision, values, business strategies.
8. Create opportunities to further own/business goals.
9. Solicit feedback and assess the decision for purposes of continuous improvement.
10. Communicate effectively to people at all levels of your organization.
11. Build and maintain relationships with individuals who might impact your work.
12. Plan, prioritize and organize your work.
13. Manage own emotions and reactions.
14. Balance the demands of your personal and professional life.
15. Give yourself quarterly reviews, identify your accomplishments.
16. Become your own sales , market your abilities.
17. Dedicate yourself to lifelong learning.
18. Be decisive and action oriented.
19. Commit to excellence and professionalism.
20. Be self-disciplined.

Saturday, August 27, 2011

How to Prepare for a Hurricane

If you are here on the East Coast, you may be preparing for Hurricane Irene. It is times like this, a stockpile could come in handy. I already went out and did my shopping – just in case. I am praying this hurricane loses power before it reaches the eastern seaboard.

If you are not quite sure what to do, here are some tips.

Step 1: Build A Kit / “To-Go Bag”

Get an , which includes items like non-perishable food, water, a battery-powered or hand-crank radio, extra flashlights and batteries. You may want to prepare a portable kit and keep it in your car in case you are told to evacuate.

Step 2: Make A Plan

Prepare your family
Make a . Your family may not be together when disaster strikes, so it is important to know how you will contact one another, how you will get back together and what you will do in case of an emergency. You should also consider:
Step 3: Prepare Your Home
  • Cover all of your home’s windows with pre-cut ply wood or hurricane shutters to protect your windows from high winds.
  • Plan to bring in all outdoor furniture, decorations, garbage cans and anything else that is not tied down.
  • Keep all trees and shrubs well trimmed so they are more wind resistant.
  • Secure your home by closing shutters, and securing outdoor objects or bringing them inside.
  • Turn off utilities as instructed. Otherwise, turn the refrigerator thermostat to its coldest setting and keep its doors closed.
  • Turn off propane tanks.
  • Install a generator for emergencies
  • Reinforce your garage doors; if wind enters a garage, it can cause dangerous and expensive structural damage.
  • Ensure a supply of water for sanitary purposes such as cleaning and flushing toilets. Fill the bathtub and other large containers with water.
  • Find out how to keep food safe during and after and emergency by visiting .

Sunday, August 21, 2011

7 Simple Steps To Feeling Good About “You”

Here are 7 Ways To Feel Good About Your Life:

1. Ask yourself questions. Every time you feel frustrated
with a task, ask yourself, "How does this task fit in with
my ultimate goals?" "How can I make this more fun,
easier, better, and faster?"

2. Be interested and curious about yourself and others.
Curiosity is a learned art. Practice it by taking a new
interest in “you”.

3. Accept your weakness. Everybody has one or two (yes,
everybody!). Instead of spending your time and energy
trying to "overcome" your weakness, make friends with it,
and make it work for you. Find a friend who is strong in
this area and ask them to assist you.

4. Don't stop learning. The brain is a muscle just like
any other, and it will stagnate if you let it. Make it
your rule to learn something new every day. Then USE what
you learn to make your life better.

5. Learn to appreciate what is good, right now. Please
don't miss out on what's wonderful in your life right now,
while you spend all your time peeking around the next

6. Don't live in the past. Let go of things
that are draining you. There's nothing there anymore that
you can change or correct -- that can only be done in the
present. Use Today. Use the power of now.

7. Swim with the current. Don't waste your time
complaining about what you can't control - like other
people. Concentrate on what you CAN control, like who you
hug, which bestseller you read, when you smile, how much
you laugh, where you go, what you do, what you think

10 tips to SkyROCKET your self esteem!

 If you're tired of feeling "less than", afraid of making and achieving your desires and goals, feel that no matter what you do it is never "good enough", then your self esteem could do with a boost!

Having low self esteem takes an enormous toll on the quality of your life. You take fewer risks, which limits your opportunities, both personally and professionally. You are reluctant to voice or acknowledge your needs. You are probably also haunted by past mistakes and making future ones.

It doesn't have to be like this, the tools you've used to (unconsciously) lower your self esteem are the same ones you use to raise it. The following article gives you ten tips to raise your self esteem and improve the quality of your life!

1. Stop comparing yourself to other people. If you play this game, you're likely to compare yourself in a negative way and set yourself up for continuing to have low self esteem. Why continue to play a game where you've set the rules against yourself, so that you're less likely to win!

2. Don't keep putting yourself down! You can't develop high self esteem if you constantly repeat negative comments about your skills and abilities. Other people will pick up on it and take on board the negative way you view yourself. How are they likely to treat you? Also don't beat yourself up over "mistakes" that you've made - learn how to reframe them so that they work for you.

3. Using affirmations is an excellent way to raise your self esteem. It's the opposite of no 1. If you can program your mind to repeat negative phrases about yourself (and see how effective that's been!), then you can certainly get into the habit of continually thinking (and saying to yourself) positive statements about you. When you do, allow yourself to experience the positive feelings about your statements. Also use inspirational quotes to assist you.

4. Accept all compliments graciously. Don't dismiss or ignore them. When you do you give yourself the message that you do not deserve or are not worthy of praise, which reflects low self esteem. It also means that others will become more reluctant to praise or acknowledge your abilities, if you don't.

5. Take advantage of and use life coaching programs, workshops, books on how to raise your self esteem and develop a more positive attitude. Whatever material you see, read acts as subliminal learning, which means that it will plant itself in your mind and dominate your behavior. Talk about food for thought - what diet is your mind on? Is it a nourishing one?

6. Mix with positive and supportive people. Who you associate with influences your thoughts, actions and behavior - another form of subliminal learning. Negative people can put you and your ideas down and it lowers your self esteem. On the other hand, when you are surrounded by supportive people, you feel better about yourself, which helps to raise your self esteem. Learn how to develop your positive personal support network.

7. Acknowledge your positive qualities and skills. Too many people with low self esteem constantly put themselves down (back to no 1 again!) and don't appreciate their many positive attributes. Learn how to truly affirm and value your many excellent qualities. If you find this difficult, ask others to tell you. They'll come up with things you would never have imagined!

8. Stop putting up with stuff! Not voicing or acknowledging your needs means that you are probably tolerating more than you should. Find out what you're putting up with and zap those tolerations. By doing so, you're giving yourself the message that you're worth it.

9. Make positive contributions to others. This doesn't mean that you constantly do for others what they could be doing for themselves. But when you do make a positive contribution to others, you begin to feel more valuable, which increases your sense of your own value and raises your self esteem.

10. Involve yourself in work and activities that you love. So many people with low self esteem stop doing those activities that they most enjoy. Even if you're not in a position to to make immediate changes in your career, you can still devote some of your leisure time to enjoyable hobbies and activities.


Start taking action! The universe rewards action. Backing away and avoiding challenges means that your self esteem muscles become weak and flabby. When you start to take action -regardless of the outcome - you will start to feel better about yourself, develop your self confidence and raise your self esteem.

Top 7 Traits of Extremely Wealthy People

Wealthy people share common traits. That's why they are wealthy. If you want to be extremely wealthy,
learn and own these traits:

On your way to achieve wealth, you will definitely face some obstacles. Overcome the obstacles and move on. Do not give up and be persistent. Wealth is achieved only by removing a series of stumbling blocks along your way to riches.

Extremely wealthy people are either businessmen or investors. Look at some of the richest people in the
world. They all own companies. To create wealth, you must involve yourself in business or investing. This is where the money is. Start your own business and grow your wealth.

To be very wealthy and to stay wealthy, you need to be very innovative. Being innovative ensures that you always come up with new ideas to create wealth. Look around you for some opportunities that can make you rich. Be observant and critical.

If you are not doing what you love, forget about getting rich. Wealthy people get wealthy because they
do what they love. They love what they do so much that they forget that they are actually working. Find
something you love and create business around what you love.

Donate some of your income to charity you believe in on a regular basis. Some extremely wealthy people even have their own foundations. They donate a percentage of their wealth to the cause they believe. The more you give, the more you receive. Do not hoard wealth, share it with people around you.

Keep learning to improve yourself. Extremely wealthy people believe that the greatest asset in the world is your mind. Your mind shapes your destiny. Invest in your greatest asset by reading books, listening to
audio tapes or attending seminars.

Extremely wealthy people do not do everything themselves. They know when to let go. They hire the right people to do it. Bill Gates doesn't write software, he hires programmers to do it. To be very rich, you must know how to leverage. Hire people and use tools to do some of your work. If you do not leverage, there is so much that you can do, and this puts a limit on how much money you can make.

Besides the above traits, extremely wealthy people dream big and they take action to have their dreams come true. They persevere and have strong desire in achieving their dreams.

10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before Your Marry Someone

"10 Emotionally Intelligent Questions to Ask Before Your Marry Someone."

1. Is it just sexual attraction?

Sexual attraction comes from the reptilian brain and is automatic and powerful because it relates to our
survival. It's not always a basis for living with someone happily. Don't let it "hijack" you. Find out what else is there.

2. Do they like to touch and be touched?

This is important to your mental and physical health.

3. Do they look at your with affection and kindness?

Most communication is nonverbal.

4. Have you used your thinking brain?

EQ means using all 3 brains. Are you compatible in your daily habits? You'll be keeping house together. Do you have the same values and priorities?

5. Does he or she have emotional self-awareness? How are they at empathy?

One of the most predictive traits for compatibility is if you can sense the other's sadness.

6. How optimistic is this person ?

Optimism is the facilitator of all the EQ competencies. In addition, optimists live longer, enjoy better health, and accomplish more.

7. Are they intentional?

Intentionality, an EQ competency, is saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Also being accountable for the motives behind your actions. If you have commitment to the relationship, i.e., nobody's going to go away, you'll work through problems differently.

8. How resilient are they?

How do they manage adverse events and setbacks? Have they been able to grow through adversity, not just go through it?

9. How do you and your partner manage anger?

Successful couples soothe one another instead of agitating and escalating.

10. How balanced is their life?

Resilient people combine learning, work and leisure throughout their lifetime.

10 Ways To Help Those In Need

10 Ways to Help Those in Need

1. Give your time.

Volunteer for organizations that work with people in need. Many
people are hesitant to volunteer because they fear that the time
commitment will be overwhelming. However, most organizations
are happy to accept any help, maybe even a small specific job or
assistance with one specific project.

2. Be consistent with your plan for giving.

There is a great need for many charitable organizations during the
holiday season. However, the need escalates after the holidays
because donations stop almost completely for several weeks
after Christmas. Spread your plan for making charitable
donations out throughout the year.

3. Consider donating items.

Many people don't donate money because they either don't have
the cash to spare or they feel distrust of organizations collecting
donations fearing that the money won't reach those in need.
Consider donating actual items, like sleeping bags, coats, or
blankets to the homeless during the cold months. Providing items
like those to direct service organizations insures that they will
reach those in need. Everyone has things like that around the

4. Use your expertise to help train staff in nonprofit organizations.

Nonprofits run on a shoe string. Most of them cannot afford to
train their staff as well as they would like. Whatever your
specialty might be, considering doing a free training seminar or
session with the staff of a nonprofit. This gives you an
opportunity to give back while at the same time enriching people
who work hard to help others.

5. Get educated.

Take time to learn about the issues involving those in need in
your local community. Do some research into the political climate
that effects people who need services. These issues range widely
from community to community. Learn what is happening in yours
so you can make informed decisions and know how best to help.

6. Get politically involved

Learn about where your local, state and federal officials stand on
issues that concern the poor and the impoverished. Write letters
and express your opinion...take time to go to the polls and vote
for candidates who most reflect your values on these issues.

7. Work with the children in your community.

Poverty is a vicious cycle handed down from one generation to
the next. Think about becoming a mentor for a needs family and
give something break the cycle of poverty.

8. Donate some of your services

If you're a lawyer do some free legal work for the less fortunate.
If you are a physician give some free medical care. If you're a
development coach donate some coaching services. Whatever
your specialty is there are people who need you. You will
discover great rewards by giving something back to those who
can least afford you.

9. Put your passion to work

If your passion is basketball, coach a team in the youth league.
Find ways of making what you love to do become beneficial for
those in need in your community.

10. Don't ignore your fellow human beings

We all come from the same source...the same place. The less
fortunate are our brothers and sisters. Treat them with respect
and dignity. Give them a "hand up" not a "hand out." Let's not
ignore our fellow human beings...we are all in this same world

My Top 10 Keys to Connecting with Anyone

Connecting with someone, establishing rapport, does not have
to be a difficult thing, although many people find it so.
Here are ten key points to remember whenever you set off to
meet new people...

1. Be happy with yourself.

Much of the insecurity we feel in meeting new people has to
do with how we feel about ourselves as opposed to the other
person. Work hard and develop positive self-esteem.

2. Act Confident...

.....even if you're not! Chances are the other person is as
nervous as you are.

3. Expect to connect.

Think positive. Tell yourself that you *will* connect with
people... and you will.

4. Smile!

It's hard NOT to connect with somebody who's cheerful and

5. Notice others.

Maybe *they* are smiling and cheerful. Maybe you are
attracted to something they are saying or discussing,
whatever. Just look for reasons to connect with people
instead of excuses NOT to.

6. Listen.

One of the greatest gifts you can give another person is to
listen to them. Instead of jumping in to say something,
listen a bit longer instead.

7. Ask questions.

Go one step further and truly take an interest in what they
are talking about. Ask thoughtful questions that draw them
out and focus the conversation on them.

8. Connect with individuals.

You can speak to, present to, teach, or train large groups,
but you can only really connect with the individuals in that
group. Emphasize this aspect of your communication and build
those one-on-one connections.

9. Be willing to compromise.

Meeting new people or working with new people invariably
means running into positions, opinions, and practices you
don't agree with. If you want to build the relationship,
expect to compromise from time to time.

10. Treat others as you'd like to be treated.

Just to start. As you get to know each other work hard to
treat them like they want to be treated (which may be very
different way, indeed).

7 Tips to Have More Time

1. Reduce distractions so you can focus on your priorities. Turn off the TV. Arrange for quiet time at the office.

2. Make a list of your priorities. Do tasks and activities relating to those first.

3. Get rid of excess stuff. Material possessions cost time and money.

4. Organize your home, office and wardrobe. Stop wasting time looking for things.

5. Streamline everyday tasks. Find quicker ways to cook, clean and perform routine office duties.

6. Delegate as much as possible to family members and co-workers. Consider hiring or bartering.

7. Write a daily to-do list. Prioritize it. Planning ultimately saves time.

The Top 10 Things in Life That You Control

We humans spend much of our time trying to control every
aspect of our lives. Unfortunately, too often we waste time
trying to control things that are simply beyond our control.

Having an understanding of what things you do control can
make it easier for you to gain control of your life and
everything in it.

1. What you do.

Your actions are yours alone. You choose to make them or not
make them and you are responsible for the effects of those

2. What you say.

Likewise, the words you speak (or write) are also
consciously chosen. Like actions, they have an impact on
your life and the lives of those you contact.

3. What you think.

Yes, there are some subconscious thoughts that you can't
control. But the things that you really think about, your
beliefs, your ideals, etc. are concepts you have chosen to
accept and believe in.

4. Your work.

Many people like to overlook this one, it being much easier
to say "Oh, I'm trapped in my job because I don't have a
degree, experience, etc."

Hogwash! That's simple a way of denying one's responsibility
in having chosen the job in the first place. It's your job
and you chose it. If you stay (or go), that's a choice as

5. The people you associate with.

There's a famous t-shirt that states: "It's hard to soar
like an eagle when you're surrounded by turkeys." Colloquial
is very often correct! Your friends can either lift you up
or bring you down. You make the decision which type of
friends you wish to have.

6. Your basic physical health.

Much about our health is a factor of genetics, environment,
and exposure. Much more of our health is simply a matter of
the decisions we make about our health, such as: diet,
exercise, drugs, sleep, routine physicals, check-ups, etc.

7. The environment you live in.

Your house, the condition of your home, the town you live
in, the amenities available to you are all things you can
control, although some to a lesser degree (i.e., you decide
to tolerate them or move someplace else).

8. Your fiscal situation.

Having or not having enough money is a factor of what you
make versus what you spend.

9. Your time.

You choose how to "spend" your time and how much of your
time to give to various activities. You'll never get more
time than the 24 hours you're given each day.

10. Your legacy.

All your actions, words, and knowledge that you share while
you are living become the gift that you leave when you are

10 Great Life Skills to Have, Use and Improve!

It takes a lot of skills to negotiate through life. Many of them we pick up along the way, others we need to develop, and some we just need to polish a little bit.

Here are ten important life skills:

1. Listening

2. Giving compliments

3. Accepting compliments

4. Thinking positive

5. Saying "No"

6. Laughing

7. Planning

8. Asking questions

9. Reading

10. Exercising

Now, consider the following questions:

How often do you use these skills? --Not enough? Too much? Or not at all?

Could you benefit from studying or applying any of these more? What type of help would you need to improve a skill?

Are there others skills that are more important or more necessary to you than these are? If so, what are they?

Answer these questions and you'll not only discover weak areas that you need to improve upon, you'll discover your true strengths... and have a lot of fun while you do!

The Top 10 Misconceptions of Success

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Is it time for you to change your attitude about success? Maybe...

I've found in much of my work with people on creating a better, more positive attitude towards life that many of us have a misunderstanding about success and what makes us successful.

Here are the ten most common misconceptions people have about success and some thoughts about those misconceptions.

1. Some people can't be successful because of their background, education, etc.

Anybody can be successful. It's a matter of wanting to, then doing what it takes to achieve it.

2. Successful people don't make mistakes.

Successful people make mistakes just like we all do. They just don't repeat them.

3. You've got to work 60 (70, 80, 90...) hours a week to be successful.

It's not a matter of doing A LOT of something. It's more about doing the right thing.

4. You'll only be a success if you play by the rules.

Who makes up the rules anyway? Each situation is different. Sometimes following the rules is needed, other times making up your own rules is what's required.

5. If you have help along the way, it's not success.

Success rarely occurs in a vacuum. Recognize the people who help you become successful, there are plenty of them.

6. It takes a lot of luck to be successful.

It takes some luck to be successful, sure. It takes a lot more hard work, diligence, knowledge, and application.

7. It's only success if you make a lot of money.

Money is just one of many benefits to success, but it's not guaranteed.

8. It's only success if everybody knows it.

You may get more money and more accolades the more people know about what you've done. But, even if you were the only one who knew it, you'd still be a success.

9. Success is a goal.

Success is more what you get when you achieve the goals you've set for yourself. Saying that you "want to be a success" begs the question: "At what?"

10. Once I'm successful, my troubles are over.

You may be successful, but you're not God. You'll still have the ups and downs that you did before. Enjoy what success you achieve and live each day as it comes.

50 Ways to Find Serenity

50 Ways to Find Serenity
(when serenity is the last thing on your mind!)

· Ask yourself…"Am I being too hard on myself?"
· Ask yourself…"What do I have in my life that I can enjoy
at this moment?"
· Ask yourself …"How important is it?"
· Ask yourself…"What is my gut telling me?"
· Ask yourself…"Are my goals or expectations realistic?"
· Ask yourself…"Am I considering all my options?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
do something about?"
· Ask yourself…"Who in my family or support circle can help
me now?"
· Ask yourself…"What is it about this situation that I can
· Ask yourself…"What can I change about my attitude?"
· Ask yourself…"Do I really want to be doing this?"
· Ask yourself…"What needs to be done first?"
· Ask supportive family members for support.
· Trust that you know what's best for you.
· How's your integrity? Are your thoughts, feelings and
actions matching? If not, what can you do about it?
· Forgive yourself...being angry hurts your soul.
· Buy yourself...some flowers or send yourself a card!
· Forgive someone...being angry uses lots of energy.
· Happiness is...enjoying what you have.
· Change negative self-talk into positive affirmations...I
am ____________.
· Tell someone who cares about you what is bothering you.
· Call a friend…to talk or go out for ________________.
· Call let them know that you are thinking
about them.
· Call someone...Go out to lunch, for coffee or for a walk.
· Breath...take 3 deep breaths. Hold it to the count of 3.
Slowly exhale. Do this 2 times or until you calm down
· Go to the movies, concert or play.
· Call a friend for support.
· Find a quiet place to read a book.
· Get a ...massage, manicure or pedicure.
· Connect...Join a club or organization. Volunteer in some
· Make a list of the 10 things you're tolerating.
· Read a book for 30-minutes.
· Write a list of the things you are grateful for.
· Learn how to say NO! (without feeling guilty!)
· Do absolutely nothing!
· Sit down. Possibly listen to some enjoyable music with a
cup of your favorite beverage.
· Rent a movie that makes you laugh.
· Speed up or slow down. Only you know which you need to
· Get enough sleep...take a nap if you need to.
· Exercise...go for a walk by yourself or with someone you
love. Do whatever type of exercise you're willing to do.
· Spend 30 minutes doing something you really, really
· Purchase something...that you can afford and want.
· Do something on your "To Complete" list... or start a
· Find a quiet place...go into the bathroom and lock the
door if you must! Close your eyes for a few moments and
think about something positive.
· Do something special for someone else...and don't tell
them what you did!
· Draw or color. Remember that your children's books
belong to them so ask permission!
· Meditate and pray... By yourself or as part of a group.
· Remember...what my life purpose is.
· Remember...that no one is perfect.
· Saying "no" to others often means saying "yes" to you!

Never Compare Yourself to Anyone

Never compare yourself to anyone else.  You and I are individuals.  We are uniquely designed to accomplish something - a purpose - if you will.   When you make comparisons, whether you’re elevating yourself above another or diminishing your own self-worth, you do yourself a huge disservice.

Never compare yourself to anyone else.  You and I are individuals.  We are uniquely designed to accomplish something - a purpose - if you will.   When you make comparisons, whether you’re elevating yourself above another or diminishing your own self-worth, you do yourself a huge disservice.

Why?  Because the journey you and I are on really isn’t about the external but the internal.  We never truly become but are in a perpetual state of becoming.  It isn’t about out-dueling the other guy but rather realizing our own potential – our better self – day-by-day - moment-by-moment.

Sounds a bit selfish right?  Wrong!  For ultimately the goal is not selfish ambition, but service.  That’s right service.  It’s about contributing to a greater good.  However, we limit the extent of that, potential contribution if we have not fully developed ourselves.  In other words, you cannot give what you don’t possess.

Henry Ford had no one to compare his vision to – to produce inexpensive goods while, simultaneously, paying his workers “higher” wages – an unheard-of business model at the time.  But he did it.  And what did he “give” the world through this self- actualization?  The Model T!

Consider this.  Imagine you’re building a five-story, forty-room mansion and your next-door neighbor is building a seven-room ranch.  Your neighbor will, undoubtedly, be finished building, moved in and having a barbeque on the back patio, with friends and family, while you have nothing but a hole in the ground.

Not only will you have just a hole in the ground, everyone will know you just have a hole in the ground - the neighbors, passersby, family etc.   Not only that, but when the rain comes, you will have a soggy, wet, muddy hole in the ground.  A real mess!  And for those who don’t understand that the taller the building the deeper the foundation must be, you will probably become the object of scorn and ridicule.   Yes, unfortunately, even some close to you may view you as a loser.

Thus, if you are given to comparisons, you may abort your vision for the comfort of a one-story ranch when a MANSION is in your heart.  Contrarily, if you know who you are; if you measure yourself not against the so-called accomplishments of others but the innate whisperings of your own spirit – you’ll let them laugh – knowing full-well that the vision will ultimately be realized in due time!

You are unique.  You are worthy.  There is no one like you.  You are incomparable!